Jessy Ares- Porn Idol

Jessy Ares- Porn Idol

Jessy Ares is a porn actor with a pop star streak. He can sing naked, dance up a storm and if required, entertain with circus skills.

Jessy happened to be in London, so he popped round for a bottle of wine and an honest chat. He turned out to be eloquent, witty and thoroughly interesting…

In the music video for ‘Porn Star’ you’re naked on the streets of San Francisco, what inspired you to do that?

It was pretty calculated- put it that way. I’d been working in Germany as a model, but everything I’ve done has always been to music. In ‘X Factor’ and ‘Pop Idol’ in Germany, I’d always make it to reasonable rounds, but never to the end.

Why do you think you didn’t go the full distance?

With Pop Idol, I got into an argument with one of the judges, so I just told him off and left the show. He was just being an ass. In X Factor I made it to one round after boot camp.

I have a good voice, but I don’t have the best. I have a voice to work with. After I left that show, I had to figure out a way to make money. I was making money as a model, but I have minimum height for a model. I miss, like, an inch. For high fashion jobs, I’d have to be taller. I was usually doing sports, underwear and nudes.

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Do you have ambitions for the Versace runway?

Do I? I don’t really care, but I wanna make the big money. I got into porn, because I wanted to make enough to produce my music. Titan made me the best offer. When I told them I was involved in music, they said they’d help me out. They signed me exclusive.

Wasn’t one of the reasons you left fashion because it’s a bitchy environment?

Oh, God, YES.

Is doing music or porn that different?

I wouldn’t have thought so, but it is. Honestly, my experience of porn has been much easier than modelling. In porn, I’ve met maybe one person that I didn’t get along with. With modelling, it was the other way round, and I would get in fights and arguments. It got physical!

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When you apply to a porn company, do you send a photo in?

Yeah, a nude photo. Of your hard on, from the side, your butt, your body.

How was your first scene?

It went very well actually. I love sex. I’m a very open person sexually and I’m used to being in front of the camera, so I didn’t have a problem. When I shot my first scene, they said, ‘Are you sure this the first time you’ve done this?’ Then they asked if I’d like to be exclusive to them.

We shot a movie called ‘Command Performance’ which was based around my music. My music was used in the background. We filmed sex in a recording studio.

Er, hang on. This ‘Command Performance’- what’s the story line?

(Laughs) It’s about a snappy artist, singer.

Which is you, right?

(laughs) Which is me! For some reason I always play the snappy bastard.

What do you mean by ‘snappy’?

I just boss people around in that movie. I’m about to go on stage, to do a show, at a festival, and then I don’t have enough background vocals, so I get into an argument with my manager, we go back to the studio to record more. Then everybody starts coming in, and we just fuck.

(Laughs) That’s a brilliant platform for your music.

Exactly. Before the movie came out, we shot THAT music promo you were asking me about, in San Francisco.

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How did you feel, being nude on a public street?

Actually, I didn’t give a shit about it. I was just thinking (laughs) – I hope this is helps promote my music. It wasn’t meant to be a super professional music video. It’s supposed to grab people’s attention- and have them look up Command Performance.

Apparently you’ve got circus skills. Er, how?

I had circus classes in school as a child.

What kinda education was THAT?

Actually, I’ve changed school 17 times. I’ve been to American schools, German schools, and Puerto Rican schools. My father’s Italian/Puerto Rican originally and my mother’s German/American. My father’s in the military.

They had me at a very young age. They were 17 and 18. With my father being in the military, we moved around every 3 years. My parents had to take care of their own lives at different points, which meant that I ended up staying with different family members, which made me move around even more. I had circus classes when I was staying with my aunt and grandmother in Germany .

Did you want to run away and join the circus?

Actually, it was my childhood dream to become a singer or join the circus.

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I can see you in Vegas, on a trapeze…singing. Cirque De So Gay. What’s the extent of your circus skills?

I can walk on a tightrope

CAN YOU?!

Well, it’s only a slack line.

Still! Some people can’t walk in a straight line on the pavement!

I can juggle with 3, and partly with 4 balls- with fabric, rings or fire clubs. Oh, and unicycling.

Oh. My. God. You NEED to incorporate this into your act. You can juggle fire AND you’re a porn star? AND you can sing? I’d buy a ticket.

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Are you in favour of gay marriage?

Yes.

Do you have a boyfriend?

Er, yes.

You had a commercially successful career with regards to modelling and sponsorship, did you not worry that you’d lose all that by going into porn?

No not all. I even kept most of my real name. I come from a conservative family, with my father in the military and Roman Catholic. So, I wanted to tease my family with it, a little bit. But when I told Titan about keeping my name, they said, ‘you shouldn’t do that to your family’. So, I didn’t.

When did you come out to your family?

When I was 24. I had a really hard time accepting myself, because of the way I was raised, so it was really difficult for me. I was afraid to tell my family, but they’re okay with it now.

Well, I guess they have to be. Was there pressure on you to go into the military, make Daddy proud and all that?

(Laughs) Well, at the age of 19, they suggested I do just that and also to get married to the neighbour’s girl. She knew I was gay, so we just laughed about it. I knew it was time to get the hell out of there.

And did you?

I left home at 18 and everything that would have been offered to me there. My mother had a lot of gay friends, being an interior decorator. But having gay friends is a different story to having a gay son. My father would say things like, ‘If you’re gonna be a gay, looking like a tranny, you won’t even have to think about coming home, because I’d kill you.’ I thought it was probably best to leave.

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Did you worry about your parents finding out about your porn career?

When I went into porn, I did it for the money and to reach my goals. I didn’t give a shit what my family might think at that point in time. My mum found out and blames me for her heart attack.

She found out?!

I made her find out. She has a gay best friend, who I met at a festival in Munich. I gave him a hint that I was flying to the States to do porn. My father then called to ask what I was doing in San Francisco, because he’d been told.

They went crazy over it a little bit. I told them to chill. He said that I could get AIDS. I told him it was all safe. He said that with my modelling and singing, they’d been proud of me and could walk with their heads up, but now they had to keep their heads down. I said, ‘that’s because YOU think it’s a bad thing’.

I like your attitude.

When I made the decision to step into porn, I knew what I was doing.

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What do you think of bareback porn?

It’s something else

You’ve been offered it, haven’t you?

I have. By Treasure Island, but bareback porn is something that I’d never do, because I’m doing this to push my goals with music. I’m not trying to kill myself. A lot of people say that they prefer seeing bareback porn…and good for them. I’m not going to put myself in danger.

Is it true you’ve had sex while performing a musical number?

Most of the songs on my album involve sex, so I was trying to combine my porn with music. When I go out there to perform in clubs, I sing, I undress…and I get my hard cock out. In Greece, a fan came up and sucked my dick on stage.

With porn comes the escort work, how do you feel about that?

I do it, sometimes. My first experience as an escort happened a long time ago. I needed money, I wasn’t at home. I didn’t want to go back to my family. Internet escorting wasn’ t around back then. I was just looking where the hookers would be standing on the street. (laughs).

That’s hard work. Where were you doing this?

In Stuttgart. I met this really nice prostitute, who knew I was scared and she took me to a place where I could work. She helped me set things up and even dealt out the money for me.

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So, now that you’re not on the streets, relying on good hearted hookers, is there anything you won’t do sexually?

Well now, I only do it for really good money. I don’t have to do it. If the guy’s acceptable and the money’s acceptable, I’ll do it, but only as a top. Privately, it’s the same thing. I’m mostly top I’ll bottom on rare occasions, maybe with a boyfriend, but generally it’s not my thing

So, being a top isn’t a strategic decision?

I’ve bottomed in films as well. And even bottomed for people who I thought were really sexy, who said they were only top, because I really wanted to work with them. So, I made that sacrifice…

Oh, please, that’s not quite a ‘sacrifice’!

Spencer Reed was somebody I really wanted to work with because he’s SO good looking.

And?

It was ROUGH. He’s a great guy, fantastic, we’re still friends, but I’m not a good bottom. The thought of it is cool, but some things in your fantasy are better than the reality. Spencer doesn’t have a small dick either…

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So, what porn have you done that didn’t turn you on?

I just shot a movie for Michael Lucas called Pantyhose. At first I said forget it. I wouldn’t wear pantyhose, but I agreed to fuck a guy in stockings. I made it work, but I wasn’t into it. At. All.

Are you a jealous person?

Yes. I’m super jealous. If you’re shooting porn it really doesn’t mean anything, it’s just a job. But, If you’re having sex with somebody when you’re going out, then you WANT that guy.

It could just be darkroom sex, utterly meaningless…

I’ve never gone in a dark room. I’m not into cruising areas, sex parties, none of that. I’m a very visual person. I have sex with my eyes. I like to see the face, the body, the eyes, but when you’re in a darkroom, you don’t see shit. You just feel a little bit, and that’s not satisfying my needs. The thought that they maybe had sex with another ten guys, maybe unprotected? I don’t want a dick in my mouth that was in an ass five minutes before.

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I like the way that you’re a good, wholesome boy underneath everything. What do you look for in a man?

Honesty is the most important. Looks that I’m attracted to and a mind-set that I’m matched to.

First published in DNA #160

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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